Setbacks and a SuperHusband by chelsie burkhart

Have you ever felt like no matter how hard you try to work at something, life keeps slapping you in the face!?

Yes, that’s me with breast milk. Joie fooled us at first because she found me so easy the very first time, she latched on, seemed to be working well.

💥Then bam. A whirlwind of setbacks kept piling up. I was an emotional wreck for the first month or so.

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I decided to go to exclusively pumping for reasons I’ll mention in a different post.
Anyways…

I finally started to up my supply, saving up milk for the freezer and then realized I needed to go dairy free.

I basically had to start over.

If anyone knows what it feels like to borrow & live paycheck to paycheck, this is exactly what it felt like. If anyone is like me, when I see my bank account start to dwindle, My anxiety skyrockets.

But we pushed and we pumped and here I am with hundreds of Oz of breastmilk In the freezer and then...

💥Bam. Power goes out.

YOU’VE GOT TO BE KIDDING!?

Our neighbors lost power a few weeks ago and it was out for days. This time, the whole neighborhood was out, so it’s not like I could call someone and ask them to store it for us.

All I could think about last night was now hard I’ve worked to manage my supply and save enough breastmilk for Joie, and it could all thaw and be ruined.

Here is where my husband who constantly reminds me “Chels, nothing is more important than you, Joie, and Theo.” “I’ll never not take care of you.” “I will do anything and everything for our family.” “You need to trust that I am going to take care You, Joie, and Theo no matter what.” Comes Into play.

Well, last night when our power went out he drove and got a generator, convincing the workers to sell it to him even though they couldn’t find the UPC code.

He stayed up until 1 in the morning hooking everything up, running wires, getting our AC unit running in the bedroom (because our AC is currently broke). Literally when everything was hooked up and running off the generator- the power came back on.

He had to unhook the generator, bring it inside, and try to get some sleep before his 4:30am alarm went off to go to work. Well, once he unhooked everything, the power went out again. He wasn’t mad, he wasn’t upset, he just rolled with it because that’s what he does best. He filled our Yeti coolers with ice & packed in the breastmilk because we didn’t know what was going on with the power.

 

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Moral of my story. I have an amazing husband. He’s constantly going above and beyond to take care of our family. No matter how rough I think life is going, he’s always there to get me through it.

Happy Thursday, friends. If you’re exclusively pumping, or have yourself a stash of breastmilk in the freezer, save yourself the anxiety... I highly suggest you go get yourself a generator or Yeti cooler OR both! …and possibly an amazing Husband.

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Yeti Tundra Cooler: Here

Joie’s elephant Magnetic Me sleeper: Here

Expectations by chelsie burkhart

Before having a child: “Im not into those matchy matchy outfits".”

After having a child: 👇😂

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Isnt it funny how much changes after you become a parent? There are so many things I said I would never do as a mom before parenthood. Can anyone relate to this? It seemed so easy to assume what my world was going to be like and how I would react to certain situations, but the reality is, I had no idea what my child was going to be like, so how could I have  possibly predicted how I was going to be as a parent!?

Okay, Okay, sure. Some of you are parents who expected the unexpected and your plans have worked out pretty flawlessly (cough, cough). Kuddos to you my friends! For alot of us parents, this isn’t the case.

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Another small example other than the unexpected mommy & me outfits that i’m obsessed with:

I told myself I wasn’t going to really introduce TV, and if I did, It was going to be a very small amount. I got some laughs for this one! At the time, I thought, “why are you laughing!?”. I don’t want my child to be glued to a tv, smartphone, or tablet! Here we are, Joie is 4 months old, and the only way I can get her to be by herself for short periods of time IS if I turn on little baby bum! She laughs so hard, and talks to the TV, its way too cute to take it away from her. We still read books, do tummy time, and take a stroll outside every day. Letting her watch an educational show that occupies her so I can get something accomplished around the house wont be the end of the world. I get my sanity back, so yeah, TV has saved my butt a few times!

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Before becoming a parent, I had all of these expectations of how life was going to be. I thought I would definetly have Joie on a schedule, that I could let anyone watch her, and that she would sleep well on her own. I honestly thought this was going to be so feasible because I know some moms who have done it! All of these things have posed real challenges and a major reality check for me. I envy you mommas out there who have their babies living a little more independently but what i’ve come to learn is that every baby is different. You give birth to this perfect little human, and although you have an idea of the way you want things to go, they may thrive differently.

The most important thing i’ve learned here is what my husbands grandpa always says, “You have to be the big F word, FLEXIBLE.” Its so true. We can have all of these expectations but what works best is if we can take life day by day, and learn to adapt ourselves to the situation.

Baby Adidas Outfit: Click Here

Womens Adidas Crop Sweater: Click Here
















Blessed by chelsie burkhart

I’m thankful for the day we became parents.

Throughout my whole pregnancy (when I started to feel movement and show) I thought it was odd that Joie stuck to my right side. I never felt movement on my left side. I always thought my belly didn’t look completely right. I always laughed because I was so lopsided.

 Well...

At my 39 week appointment we were told Joie was Breech

We scheduled a version that would result in either an immediate C-Section or an induction.

She didn’t turn. Something just didn’t feel right, we told them to stop at the 2nd attempt and do the C-Section

 

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During surgery, the dr said “ohhh, that is why she is breech, she has been breech for a long time” “Honey, there’s something going on with your uterus. Don’t worry, she is fine and you are fine but I’ll explain when you are in recovery.”

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Turns out I have a septate/bicornuate uterus. Mine doesn’t split down the middle though, a portion of my  left side has no communication with anything.


That explained everything that was going on with my belly and movement throughout pregnancy.


We heard things like:

✨You’re l u c k y

✨Most people who have this have trouble getting pregnant

✨Some people have miscarriages

✨A lot of times babies are pre-term

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So,


Going through a perfectly healthy pregnancy and getting pregnant on the first try, we are blessed 🙏. It may not be that easy next time. We are thankful to have Joie. If it weren’t for her being breech, we may have never known that my uterus is the way it is. 

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This is just a reminder to count my blessings. There are times where she may be fussy, or times that I may be sleep deprived, times where things get really hard... these are the times where I have to stop and remind myself that I’m so thankful for this healthy little girl.

She doesn’t like sleeping by herself. She loves human touch and feels most comfortable lying on Austin’s and I’s chest or in our Arms. This makes getting things done around the house merely impossible. But, you know what... I don’t even care right now. I’m soaking up all the cuddle time she wants. I’m lucky to have a husband who literally helps with anything and everything  (besides breastfeeding because ugh, that’s impossible 😆). 

Sometimes we take moments for granted, and we wish away the hard times, but guess what. Life is   h a r d. There are going to be moments of struggle but it makes us appreciate the amazing times that much more.

 

Take a moment and count your blessings. It’s easy to get caught up in frustration but if we take a deep breath and thank God for his plan, we can put ourselves back into balance and in a better place.  

 

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🖤 Chels